Spending time on yourself, with yourself, and for yourself is the most important thing you can do to forge a happy life for your family and success in your business! If you are unhappy, your family will be unhappy; if you are confident - that confidence will be displayed in every task and interaction you do for and on behalf of the family in addition to your business and the satisfaction of your clients! “Self-care is how you take your power back.”– Lalah Delia Yes, I know you are strapped for time - I have 7 kids & 4 home businesses, home-schooling and a myriad of responsibilities and bills I would rather not think about right now - having extra time does not really exist for me... ... in situations like this, you simply have to MAKE TIME for self-care, and remind yourself exactly why it is so darn important to at least dedicate one day a week to it! Read on if you want to know more about how you can snag some time each week to practice a self-care routine, what to do for yourself during self-care and how to create an effective self-care routine tailored to your individual needs.
When people first find out that I am a mother of seven children the reaction is always obvious shock - and I totally get it. Besides thinking I am absolutely nuts; no one is accustomed to mothers of multiple children who do not have bags under their eyes, a slump in their back - or who always have their hair neatly combed while still producing top achieving children who are apparently happier than they even should be. Contrary to popular belief - having children is not a reason to totally let yourself go - it is THE reason to BE YOUR ABSOLUTE BEST! And yes, as mothers we do lack time for ourselves even for the simplest of things; - like taking a pee for example - but one of the many, many things I have learnt from being a mother is this - 'motherhood gets a whole lot more frustrating AND difficult when you allow yourself to look and feel like something the cat dragged in.' As women, as mothers - finding time to put ourselves together each day - and back together each evening before bedtime is vital in maintaining not just our bodies, but also our sanity! I am begging you to not give up on your beauty and your confidence because you are busy building everyone else's! The people who need you, need you at your best! There are just more reasons to fight to find the time for YOU than to give up altogether and I think that understanding the reasons you deserve to practice a self-care routine and all the amazing benefits of having one can truly change your life! So if you are ready to feel more beautiful and confident, and for all that glorious feeling to resonate through your entire being even when tackling the mound of dirty dishes in the sink - read on!
I trust that you and your family have been doing well and are finding great ways to keep busy and reduce the stresses we are all prune to worldwide right now! I am definitely praying for the best outcome for our planet like many others are right now.
Despite everything I have been counting my blessings and keeping my mind focused on as much positive things as possible. The girls and I are keeping active in the community by contributing to the many efforts and community initiatives taking place in our country. There have been many wonderful families who have been negatively affected by the economic impact of Covid around here and it is taking everyone's effort to help out. I hope things are not too out-of-whack near you.
At home I have turned to baking quite often and squeezing in exercise of course, though never as often as I would like. After 7 pregnancies I managed to keep things together by using a variety of targeted exercises, though never routinely or even consistently, yet it somehow 'works out' haha.
In addition to enjoying a little sensuality and fitness through belly dancing around my living room; the Ab Roller has been one of my fave exercise tools for repairing and strengthening my abdominal muscles over the past 14+ years. I usually start doing this 8 to 12 weeks after birth and have managed to maintain a comfortable weight, size and tone. Take a stroll over to my blog to hear my experience with ab rolling and a bit about recovering your body after childbirth.
YIKES!? So I just watched the video I filmed when at 39 weeks pregnant - I have embarrassingly posted the video below *covers eyes* eeeeekkkk). Oh dear, I have come so far. It takes some serious skill to keep yourself together for an entire 9 months of pregnancy while tugging around a weight inside your… Continue reading VIDEO: REFLECTING ON MY 7TH PREGNANCY – PAIN, LIGAMENTS & LOST CONFIDENCE
In order to make waist training work for me I had to get used to it. The first 4 weeks are the toughest because waist trainers force you to stand or sit up right, keep an arched back, pick up the boobies and really pull in the waist while making the hips and buttocks look broader and wider respectively - let's just say the waist trainer has got you covered in all the right places. I usually waist train 6 days a week and take Sundays off (yeah, I actually have a waist train schedule). Having a waist train schedule helps you to keep on track and stay committed because you have a goal to wear your waist trainer on whatever day from when to whenever. Knowing exactly when and for how long you expect yourself to wear the waist trainer will ensure you have clear expectations for your waist training.
Waist training is a method that I recommend to women I know all the time because I know what it did for me, my body, my confidence and my postpartum recovery journey.
Let's face it - getting in to an exercise routine and sticking to it when you are a mommy is $&%%ing hard! Like yeah, one week we will be all super motivated and put on our fave exercise video a pair of tights and a Tee and somehow manage to exercise when the baby is sleeping but by week 2 the toddler will be dangling on your leg as you try to do a squat and the teenage daughter will be howling from her bedroom begging mommy to bring a midol... these interruptions can be discouraging and makes you wonder if trying to fit an exercise routine is even worth the frustration. Well, for me it wasn't - my life is rather unpredictabme, I mean I know what I have to do when I wakeup and what time to be to work etc... but the in-betweens are pretty random. At any minute there is going to be a slip, fall and cry or someone will want a sandwich... the pads would be out and both teen daughters will menstruate at the same frickiny time so dinner prep is haulted for a trip 10 miles to the grocery store, etc... so for me to actually exercise my "routine" had to be as random as my daily life and somehow exercise anytime, anywhere, somehow has been working for me so for all the busy mommas out there beating themselves up about getting exercise; do your squats at the pot and your lunges in the shower... read on for all the details.
Accepting the fact that I could not commit to a particular time to exercise or jog, I found random ways throughout my day to stretch and strengthen my body while doing what I have to do, whether it be working at my desk, washing the dishes, rocking the baby to sleep, reading stories, doing laundry, combing my hair, putting on my make-up or mopping the floor - random exercising has been the key to my success of reducing weight after pregnancy, keeping it off and getting stronger and fitter as the weeks pass after each baby.
Not being able to stick to an exercise routine because of my fast-paced mommy life made me decide that exercise would simply have to be done whenever and wherever I could do it. Even if it would simply be some squats here or leg lifts there – I knew it was better to get some form of exercise in than to tell myself it was entirely impossible and skip it altogether.
This is when I decided that even during my office job I could work on firming and strengthening my body to achieve the energy and figure that makes me feel most confident.