When people first find out that I am a mother of seven children the reaction is always obvious shock - and I totally get it. Besides thinking I am absolutely nuts; no one is accustomed to mothers of multiple children who do not have bags under their eyes, a slump in their back - or who always have their hair neatly combed while still producing top achieving children who are apparently happier than they even should be. Contrary to popular belief - having children is not a reason to totally let yourself go - it is THE reason to BE YOUR ABSOLUTE BEST! And yes, as mothers we do lack time for ourselves even for the simplest of things; - like taking a pee for example - but one of the many, many things I have learnt from being a mother is this - 'motherhood gets a whole lot more frustrating AND difficult when you allow yourself to look and feel like something the cat dragged in.' As women, as mothers - finding time to put ourselves together each day - and back together each evening before bedtime is vital in maintaining not just our bodies, but also our sanity! I am begging you to not give up on your beauty and your confidence because you are busy building everyone else's! The people who need you, need you at your best! There are just more reasons to fight to find the time for YOU than to give up altogether and I think that understanding the reasons you deserve to practice a self-care routine and all the amazing benefits of having one can truly change your life! So if you are ready to feel more beautiful and confident, and for all that glorious feeling to resonate through your entire being even when tackling the mound of dirty dishes in the sink - read on!
So many mothers have lived that heartbreaking feeling of seeing your child hungry and having nothing and no way to feed them - even if only for one night, this feeling can tear a mother to pieces ...
Failing at one thing can be the open doorway that we needed in order to see the opportunity on the other side that we had never considered; failure can many times provide us the strength and experience that was missing from our initial effort so that when we do get off the floor we are ready to charge ahead. Failure to properly manage a sudden financial reward in one instance can provide us that keen wisdom we need in order to ensure all goes well should such an opportune moment arise again. The failure of one marriage can very often lead a person to meet and marry their soul mate after the turmoil and madness of divorce before.
There are always tiny things that bring sunshine in to my life even on dark days, but it can take a crap-load of effort to attempt to find happiness during moments of despair or feelings of failure which can often lead to depression. They say "laughter is the best medicine" and that is indeed true - but when even a laugh commands more effort than you are willing to give during these moments - I have found that it is first best to at least find your smile.
Ever notice how the words "anxiety" and "depression" are almost always together? Being anxious can be very stressful, and consistent stress often leads to depression; and depression is not a cool place to be. Depression can happen to anyone no matter how happy they may appear; I know first-hand the hopeless, dark feeling that is… Continue reading PRACTICING PATIENCE: REDUCING STRESS A LITTLE BIT AT A TIME